The Foolproof How-To on Calling Men
May 22, 03:05 AM
Has the rules on calling men ever confused you? Do you find yourself spending most of your waking hours around the phone a few days after you gave your number to a guy you really like? Do you worry about what could have gone wrong with you when he doesn’t call after the first date? For most women, getting through a first date is hard enough without having to worry about whether the guy will ever call again after that. Sometimes, ladies even wish that calling men after the first date is socially acceptable so they can just get the anxiety over and done with.
The ball is on the other court
Unfortunately, our social construct dictates that guys should be the ones to call first to initiate a relationship. After the first date, the ball is entirely in their side of the court and it is up to them to decide whether to throw it right back at us again or to take it somewhere else. But this doesn’t mean that you should just twiddle your thumbs beside the phone hoping it would ring for that phone call that you’ve been waiting for. If you can’t stand the suspense, calling men shouldn’t be considered a bad thing. There’s just a proper way of doing it.
If you really must make the phone call, try not to sound so desperate. At the start of a relationship, a guy can easily be turned off by someone who just has to know when he’s going to ask her out on a date again. Don’t intrude on your guy’s personal space.
Don’t be too available
Another rule that you have to remember is to keep yourself from being too available to answer his phone calls. When you keep running to the phone each time he calls, he’ll just take it for granted that you will always be there. Men enjoy the thrill of a chase and this is what makes new relationships exciting for them. Answer his calls but don’t drop everything else each time the phone rings. Guys understand that you have a life of your own so just live it.
Keep it short
Keeping your phone conversations short will make your guy want to see you in person to continue on where you’ve left off. It’s after all, much better to talk to an actual person over dinner or a cup of coffee than over the phone. So when you’re calling men, don’t stay on the phone talking as though you’re just talking to one of your girlfriends.
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