Finding and Keeping Love is Not Just a Romantic Idea!
Jun 20, 09:24 PM
“Finding and keeping love is not just a romantic idea; it’s crucial to our intact survival.”
Love….what is it? a wonderful feeling! It’s intoxicating and all-consuming. It gives you strength and grows beyond you – to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by their presence, even when they are away. Miles do not separate you. You have so many wonderful little films in your head that you keep replaying. But near or far, you know they are yours, and you can wait. It always seems so easy to fall in love but sustaining a relationship is where the real test begins. Making a relationship work smoothly is not always easy but it is not impossible and it doesn’t require any miracles. Deep down you know everything you need to know about making love last; you just forgot. What you need to do is calmly reflect on what you already know-and then act on it. Every relationship comes with its set of difficulties, arguments, bitterness but there are ways of tackling every problem or difficulty that comes your way as it is always possible to renew and transform a relationship.
There are certain cornerstones that help you delve into your own relationship and look at the possibilities of improvement.
For a relationship to have a solid foundation to build on you need:
1.Caring about each other
2.Respect for each others needs
3.Communication between each other
4.Truth with each other on all things big and small
5.Commitment to each other and the relationship you have. Simple but truly needed for a relationship to be sound.
Besides these basics which help in building a healthy relationship you can easily bring some spark to your relationship just like you go on a crash diet to cut on that extra bulge and here are some tips that come handy in a relationship
1. No one’s perfect. After years (or even weeks! months!) in a relationship, you will come to realize that there are some things your boyfriend/girlfriend does that just irks you but cant help since habits are ingrained so on your part what you need to do is Just ignore it.
2. Make some “cuddle” time for the person you love….Cuddle time doesn’t necessarily mean a physical type of relation with your significant other It means there needs to be time, even five minutes a day, that you spend with each other in a meaningful way.
3. Never stop dating ….because a nice outing with the one you love gives you the feeling that the relationship has not become mundane.
4.Saying I love you to your beloved never really cheapens the phrase at all until you actually stop meaning what you say but you mean it never stop saying those three magical words.
5.You should always love unconditionally and the expectations should always be kept low because it’s the expectations that can either make or break any relationship.
6.For having a good successful relationship couples need to be very good friends and most importantly trust each other no matter what enduring all hardships and standing the test of time because every relationship stands firm on the carpet of time.
So the bottom line is that for a long successful and off course healthy relationship a good balance of love, trust, patience and self esteem are the sole ingredients and could make a big difference and help a relationship thrive for years
Arguing Advice
Arguments in relationships are apparent and it’s the female partner who comes up with problems while the male is calm and tries avoiding any sort of confrontation because peace is what he wants. In that case it is advisable that the boy should at least lend a ear to what the female wants to convey because she really cares and values the relationship. And as far as females are concerned attacking verbally is a complete no no and attacking his character is again not advisable.
If you are desperate and doomed to a life of struggling for a relationship to work don’t give up hope and think of a break up because it has an adverse effect on your heath and body It usually takes two to three years for a couple whose relationship has broken up to begin to put their lives back together and get over the emotional pain and trauma. Many people can have serious health and emotional problems during this time. So instead of thinking of a breaking up chart out ways to make your relationship work because its way to easy to end a relationship but putting it together is more difficult…
Laughter seems to be the time tested medicine so always laugh it out together….. accept your differences because that makes the relationship all the interesting…..always heed small things before they actually become too big and start irking you…..sort out every single together and never let a third person intervene because he could actually add to your problems….stay connected to each other ….and always make sure you reminisce the happy moments spend together …..and remember this is just the beginning and not the be-all or end-all of your relationship…because “Love cant be frozen in time and put on the shelf
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